Today's Weigh-In: 322.5
5-Day: N/A
First, I'll be honest. I did not do that well. As expected, we were taken out to dinner several times, and in NO instance was there anything even remotely healthy. Most of the time, we tried to focus on portion control, but there were other times where we just let go.
It was a very stressful weekend. It was much tougher than I thought it would be to see my dad re-marry, and I didn't handle it well at all. As is my usual M.O., food helped me cope.
Now, having said all of that, I don't think there was even one day where I went over my BMR of 3,518. I don't doubt that there was a day or two where I came close, though.
Regardless, I know we're both glad to be back in our own environment.
One side note: Does anybody else ever get the feeling that people take these changes we're making as a joke, and try to derail us for fun? It was like a challenge for people to get us to eat things we weren't supposed to eat, and then, if we gave in, to give us a hard time about it.
I guess I just don't see where the humor in that is.
2.20.2007
Not a Great Time
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Every once in awhile I find that there are people out there you try and derail what I am doing. I laugh and walk away.
I've completely noticed the attempt to derail. I don't know if it's so much a "Ha ha, let's try to make you fail" as it is a "Eh, it's just one [insert junk food here]...it won't hurt" type of thing. It's almost like our diets are an inconvenience to them. Poor people.
I get that at work all of the time. They order out EVERY SINGLE DAY. Usually they're pretty good about it, but our team has 'pizza Fridays' often, and that doesn't exactly make it easy.
Sometimes I get pissed off about it, but there's nothing you can do but be strong.
People often give me a hard time about my diet. There's this one guy I work with who often rolls his eyes when I say "I can't eat that". I just think he sees my attempt to avoid common unhealthy foods as silly and futile. You just have to fight through it. I know I'm right.
And, not to sound like an ass, but I find it hard to believe that there were no healthy options available to you when you went out to eat. I've been out to many, many restaurants, even bars that just serve bar food, and I've always been able to find a piece of fish or chicken with maybe some vegetables or something reasonable. I've even been able to accomodate my no-dairy thing if I ask the waiter about it.
I'm not trying to give you a hard time, I'm just trying to point out to you that you may just need to open your eyes, stop making excuses, and find something healthy. Maybe it was your stress or being overwhelmed that made you eat unhealthy, and that's OK, as long as you're honest with yourself about it.
It seems like you've been having a hard time all around, and I wish I could say something that would make it easier. I guess all it boils down to is we feel your pain, and we're here to listen and to help.
To answer your last question, I must suggest reading Dr. Phil's weightloss book (again I am seriously embarassed about liking his book) because he spends a bunch of time discussing reasons why people may try, consciously or not, to derail your efforts. I will give a few examples though:
1. They have tried and failed, and dont want you to suceed where they couldnt.
2. They dont think you are serious and assume its not a problem for you to quit your diet
3. They are not trying to hurt your diet, but are unwilling to modify their habits at all to make your environment more diet friendly
4. ( I know this isnt the case for you Kevin ) Spouses may feel threatened by your efforts to improve yourself. You are less likely to find someone 'better' and leave them if you stay fat.
Overall I would guess the 1st and 3rd are the most common that all of us run into.
Carl & Dr. Phil are right on target...many people sabatoge a dieter's plans because of their own feelings. They may know that you're trying to do the right thing for yourself, but they aren't ready to do the same for themselves, so why should you be successful?!? And, some people just don't like change.
I'm heading home for a wedding tomorrow...so I'm bracing myself for dealing with some of what you probably faced. I'm going to do my best. I've packed lots of clothes that I wasn't able to wear even 3 weeks ago..but now they fit! I'm hoping that wearing them will be a reminder of how far I've come and help me to stay the course as much as possible.
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